We all learn so much about our careers and continually go out of our way to keep up to date. When it comes to relationships we have no training. Marriage Preparation is a way to take the first steps to finding out some fundamental facts about yourself and your partner and to learn some practical relationship skills. The Marriage Preparation programme is a structured process of approximately five hourly weekly sessions. These sessions help the couples to learn more about themselves, their couple dynamic and to acquire skills to manage differences.
This programme is for couples who feel their relationship needs improvement. It helps couples to take a focused structured look at their relationship when they are feeling that they are loosing touch with each other and need to reaffirm their goals.
Every couple is totally unique. It is impossible to generalise on the different reasons for failure in a couple relationship. Each couple needs to spend time, and if necessary, get help to ensure that they understand what their basic needs are in a relationship and where they can improve their behaviour patterns to ensure that they succeed next time.
Only spending some time and effort with a trained counsellor can a couple analyse what has happened to change a relationship. The one thing about relationships that is totally predictable is that it will change, all the time. It is about trying to understand what is needed at each stage and know how to manage these changes that is important.
Probably not!! We are not good about being constantly aware of our partner’s needs and what has to be done practically to avoid conflict. The couple needs to put in place regular quality time to sit and discuss where they are and what they need to do to keep in touch with each others needs.
Definitely. Try and avoid talking to family and friends about your personal issues. They are often protective and not objective. Come back to Judy, or someone like her, to help you move forward. Loyalty to your partner is a top priority.
Absolutely. Creating a place of safety and trust is Judy's top priority.
This is difficult but the couple needs to understand that they are now creating their own family and need to develop boundaries to family and friends to help them have their own family system. Your partner is now your top priority and dependency on family and friends must lose their dominant position in your lives.
It is important to remember that your partner chose you, not his children. It is difficult for children to accept a new father or mother into their lives. It is naïve to expect acceptance into such an intimate family structure. Be patient and have reasonable expectations. Showing tolerance and appreciation whenever possible and waiting for the children to like you for who you are as an individual is paramount.
If you have a question that is not listed above, please use this form to submit it. Judy is dedicated to serving all clients and prospects, and will be happy to address any concerns or enquiries with you.
You are of course always welcome to simply call if you prefer.
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Judy helps couples of all ages and cultures improve their relationships and has:
Over 400 success stories to tell
15 years practical experience
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